How To Be A Winner

‘I love the winning, I can take the losing, but most of all I Love to play.’ ~Boris Becker

Have you ever stopped to consider how you think about winning? Or, what winning is, exactly?

These are important questions that you might want to take a few minutes to answer for yourself.

The way you think about winning can have a ginormous impact on both your on course success and the enjoyment you get from training and trialing with your dog.

Here’s a quick way to zero in on your “winning perspective” (aka, your goal orientation).

Read each sentence and pick the one that best fits the way you usually feel. Don’t think too much about each one. Go with your gut. Ready?

I feel successful in my sport when I get the highest score.

– or –

I feel successful in my sport when I master a new skill.

If you feel that the first statement best describes you, your primary focus is on outcomes. Competing against others and comparing yourself with them are important factors for you when you train and compete.

If you feel that the latter statement does a better job of describing you, then your primary focus is on your own performance. Comparing yourself with prior performances is what it’s all about for you.

There are many successful athletes in every sport that fall under both types of focus orientations. And, quite a number find themselves firmly planted in both categories. However, having a performance focus is more advantageous than focussing solely on outcome.

Now, I don’t want to give anyone the impression that winning isn’t important or doesn’t matter. It is and it does. The vital concept is how we define winning for ourselves.

In this video I go a little bit more in depth about why winning is important and the differences between outcome and performance orientations. It’s about 15 minutes long and I think it’s well worth your time to watch. Enjoy!

I’d love to hear what you think about the video and if it strikes a chord, please share! Wouldn’t it be great if we could all “win” all the time?



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  1. Ninnie Lindvall
    5 years ago

    These are the things we have to keep in focus all the time. Very well put.

  2. Georgie
    5 years ago

    Will definitely keep these views foremost in my mind, thanks!

  3. Heather McLeod
    5 years ago

    Excellent Listen!! Some of my small Goals for sure!! Thank You!


  4. Susan
    5 years ago

    As always—thanks so much for your part in my being a better competitor! I do like how I think about winning, but a comment you made early on really resonated with me and shifted my thoughts. You said “winning is fun” and I agree. But then you said that you will start a session with “Let’s go have fun”. I also agree with that statement. I see now how they can be interconnected. It was a light bulb moment for me!

    • John Cullen
      5 years ago

      Thanks for your kind words Susan. I’m glad I could play a small part in your successes.

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